“Why we have turned into cold, manipulative, calculative zombies?”

Have we indeed, are we much worse off than the earlier generation? Are we ethically dying as a species? I doubt if such collasal, far reaching conclusions on the general human condition can be made from this post. Are there nuances here, isn’t the need for “love” (of whatever kinds, rainy, ephemeral, calculative) something that we have lived for years. I wonder about “speed dating”. Read Malcolm Galdwell’s “Blink” - it is actually about thin slicing, gut reactions, more primitive than the mating rituals otherwise.

Do I have the answers, no - what do I know. I just watch Paris Hilton strutting her stuff while drinking some beer

Amit, it seems you have not even read the first line of the post.I read it in a newspaper suppliment and then the matter is not private but public and I am fully entitled to write my opinion.

yes I did read it & I’m very well in acceptance that everyone’s entitled to their opinion, ofcourse, its a democracy afterall!! its just that, personally, I don’t like it when people discuss other people’s personal life like their love affairs or girlfriends or marriage or divorce, it sort of makes me feel creepy, if you know what I’m talking about. so I generally avoid these kinda discussions!!

And nowhere I have mentioned what our culture is, because I myself don’t know what our culture is. So before mentioning RSS, VHP care a bit to read the post. “Culture” word appears nowhere in my post. BUT i can undersdtand, these days Its fashionable to use words like RSS and VHP.

I didn’t say that you mentioned “culture” or anything like that, I just quoted as a precedent, an example. you perhaps took my words a bit too close to your heart(which you shouldn’t have)!! maybe you thought that I was insulting you or something, which I wasn’t, so please don’t fly off the handle, I’m still a nice guy!!

AND I don’t have any problem if a person have lakhs of affairs AT THE SAME TIME. But don’t call it “Love.” Lets be honest and term it as such, “Affairs.” And I DON’T THINK THAT WE SHOULD BE CRUDE ENOUGH, that unless and until something get physical or financial, we shouldn’t react. If emotional abuse doesn’t figure in your dictionary, then its alright.

well, you wouldn’t believe that the definition of “love” is so skewed that it means different to every individual, not having an official definition doesn’t help either!! its just a point of view & I’m sure that you would agree that everyone has their own point of view. maybe you might think that this “rebound love” of his is not love, maybe its not, but then it might be, only he knows. besides, the girl(his rebound love) isn’t naive(we assume this ofcourse), so no evil work at play. I won’t say anymore on this here, doesn’t look you took my comments in the right way(you seem to be quite upset with them), but I’ll rant about it on my own blog with another incident of which I came to know just yesterday!!