Prostitute and Pimp
“My friend, tell me what’s the matter?
What is the secret of your non-stop chatter?”
“Can’t you detect a thing?
I will be wearing a wedding ring.
Today ladke wale are coming to see me
And soon I will be flying free.
Come on, let’s go to the beauty parlor
Soon I will be having my own harbor.”
Barely concealing my disgust,
I asked, not warming to the request,
“Are you a prostitute or product or wine
to be delivered on time?
Your own parents acting as pimps
Has their conscience gone limp?
Getting you packaged beautifully,
to attract target customers dutifully?
Where is your pride?
Has it gone for a ride?
How can you exhibit yourself as an offering?
In front of strangers, will your self-respect not be suffering?
My friend, have some dignity
Don’t sacrifice it for the sake of security.”
“See after coming of age
I have to mate.
I have to be scrutinized
Otherwise the deal will not materialize!
How can I have dignity?
When boy too doesn’t protest for being treated as commodity!
Day in and day out, in the dowry market
He has been fitted in a money casket.
Auctioned and sold and bought
But he doesn’t seem distraught.
Not a single pore of his body rises in self-respect,
So we two items are destined to tryst.
He refuses to learn and grow up into manhood.
So I too remain secure in the childhood.
See we both deserve each other
We are perfectly made for each other.”
February 2nd, 2006 at 1:47 pm
That was such a strong poem with equally strong theme. But I feel, the era of dowry has gone, I didnt hear in my far far circles if anybody has demaned any dowry(except for a few andra friends) and same with girls, they do not sit in front of you as commodity , they interact with you, go for a drive or stroll and talk for hours with you before making a decision. I guess the times are changing or otherwise I am living in a different world.
Poem was indeed good.
-ATG
February 2nd, 2006 at 3:32 pm
yeah, I agree with Anil, except in some very orthodox families(certainly not in Hindus as I’ve seen, though I’ve a muslim friend of mine & he just got engaged, & in their families, the gal & the guy don’t see each other till the nikah), the situation is changing a lot. this poem would’ve suited well a few years back though!!
February 2nd, 2006 at 11:16 pm
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Meanwhile here is my list for PL
http://apniduniya.blogspot.com/2006/02/blog-post.html
February 2nd, 2006 at 11:51 pm
Sad situation to be in, though times have changed however i still feel there are large number of girls who still have to go through the scrutinisation for getting married, disgusting !
February 3rd, 2006 at 12:41 am
uh, where did my comments disappear? Even BL’s is not visible anymore..
February 3rd, 2006 at 2:42 am
yeah & even my rant in response to you gals’ comments is also gone!! Twilight Fairy, there was some problem with Alka’s database & hence, the last comments were blackholed!!
February 3rd, 2006 at 2:48 am
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February 3rd, 2006 at 7:01 am
Hi Alka,
nicely written but seemed to be in a sad mood….hmmm….
nyways thanx for dropping by my blog……but u didn’t completed the game……plz do that……it is a simple one…..nyways
all d bst !!
keep writing n keep smiling
February 3rd, 2006 at 1:42 pm
Reposting my comments :
That was such a strong poem with equally strong theme. But I feel, the era of dowry has gone, I didnt hear in my far far circles if anybody has demaned any dowry(except for a few andra friends) and same with girls, they do not sit in front of you as commodity , they interact with you, go for a drive or stroll and talk for hours with you before making a decision. I guess the times are changing or otherwise I am living in a different world.
Poem was indeed good.
February 8th, 2006 at 1:16 am
Hey there…my previous comment too got lost i guess…
Anyways…amazing articulation there…though i feel such instances r on the decline now…moreover anyone allowing himself to b sold in the groom market isn’t worth being called a ‘Man’ afterall.
February 10th, 2006 at 8:09 am
Thanks for the compliments on my blog, Alka. I didn’t know that you had to ask me to be added to your blogroll.
Thought provoking poem. Reminds you of Rani Mukherjee’s dialogues in the movie “Hum Tum” where she says that Indians are obsessed with getting thier daughters married off. Wheher it is dowry or corruption, one has to strike at the root of the peoblem to get rid of it permanantly. Writing poetry and making movies like “Rang De Basanti” highlight the problem.
February 19th, 2006 at 12:28 pm
HI.
I m also perplexed by the idea that hw a person can spend his/her entire life with a stranger whom he/she doesn’t know and whn the case is of dowry,hw do ppl still adjust?
I think marriage is less a love/devine concept rather its mere Compromise.
February 21st, 2006 at 6:03 am
i dont know what to say… it may even offend you but i have no such intentions…
whatever u have said it seems like as if u r abusing me, my parents, my brothers and sisters and frnds and their parents and other relatives and majority of our population… i dont know whats your idea of how to get married… but to me and many of my frnds its the PARENTS which decide … this is what is beleived and practised by majority ppl … by those who has received best of education at iitd and iim-a… by those who r in service of society by choice… whatever u have said does happens in reality but the perception u r having of such scenario is not truth… the labels u have assigned them is totally unjustified…
i dont know if u r joking or u do really beleive in what u have said… in either case the way u approached it is …
do u know what it means to be a prostitute or a pimp?… when parents r deciding abt their child’s marriage is this is what is on their mind that can categorise them and their child as what u described them?… for sure u r not aware of underlying feelings in such scenario… if ppl r pros and pimp in this scenario then they r like that in evry other… and even those who believe in LOVE marriages… becoz the thrust is same in both cases…
i wont speak of merits and demrits of love and arranged marriage… it is one owns choice but to abuse those who dont fall in one’s own category without knowing in and out of them is wrong…
in case my views r offending u r at liberty to not to display my comments…
February 21st, 2006 at 8:25 am
interesting
March 2nd, 2006 at 5:38 am
Alka nice thinking/ tough words/ hard to digest.,…but that’s the truths.
March 27th, 2006 at 1:53 pm
I loved the attitude with which you have handled a sensitive issue…and the title sure made stand up and shout”WHAT THE HELL!”…However I do hope your own thoughts on marriage are not the same…coz times have changed.
April 19th, 2006 at 4:42 am
WoW Alka!!
May 18th, 2006 at 11:37 pm
Wonderful thought..you got married??