I was reading some newspaper supplement, few weeks ago. Here a fresh divorcee was trying his best to come to terms with his new found status. Someone suggested, that he should ask his close relatives and friends for the cause of his divorce. Idea was appealing and the person distributed blank sheets to the near and dear ones. He even included his ex-mom-in-law for her opinion.
I was full of admiration for this guy. He was leaving no stone unturned for his peace of mind. This path is suggested by many. Coming to terms with what happened in your life. Face it squarely. Make peace with it and then move ahead.
But my ears started emitting fume, when he mentioned the current gal in his life. There was a name for her, â€œMy Rebound Love.â€? I was amazed at the guys cowardice. He was not yet over with his broken relationship, still he has gone ahead with another one. We see it happening everywhere. Have we matured as suckers? Have we left all sense of fairness and decency to self and others?
Why we have turned into cold, manipulative, calculative zombies? Don’t our parents and elders imparted us an iota of self restrain and courage? We are so weak that we can’t live with ourselves for few months? We constantly need attention and admiration at the cost of another person’s feelings? Imagine, one has just suffered a heartache and moving with the awareness that icy fingers are tightly clutching the heart, but one is ready to transfer the same feelings to â€œRebound Loveâ€?. Just because he / she is a perfect gutless wonder and doesn’t want to face the realities of life staring at him / her.
Can’t we give us some time to settle things? Doesn’t â€œREBOUND LOVEâ€? has feelings and a heart which is also breakable just like ours? I remember a movie, â€œVijetaâ€? where a character remakrs, â€œEak spin se nikle nahi, doosare mei phans gaye.â€? When we ourselves are in emotional flux and aren’t sure of what we want, then why go ahead and have a â€œRebound Loverâ€?? Or playing with others’ emotions is our national time pass apart from cricket?
I strongly believe, like boomerang things will revert to us with the same speed and force. If I am treating someone as â€œRebound Loveâ€?, I too will become the same for someone sooner or later and I will hear terms like YOU ARE â€œMy Holiday Loveâ€? or â€œMy New Year Eve Loveâ€? or â€œMy Current Journey Loveâ€? or â€œMy One Day Loveâ€? or â€œMy Hip Hop Night Loveâ€? or â€œMy Rainy Night Loveâ€? (specially in Indian context ) or â€œMy coffee Break Loveâ€? or â€œMy breakfast Loveâ€?……………..