I was reading an article in â€œThe Asian Ageâ€? . Its OP-ED Pageâ€™s headline â€œItâ€™s official, men donâ€™t like to marry high IQ womenâ€? caught my attention. The writer claimed to notice the trend how â€œpowerful men took up with the young women whose job it was to tend to them and care for them in some way: their secretaries, assistants, nannies, caterers, flight attendants, researchers and fact checkers.â€? â€¦â€¦â€¦â€¦â€¦â€¦â€¦..â€?men think that women with important jobs are more likely to cheat on themâ€?â€¦â€¦..The article quoted Dr. Stephanie Brown, the lead author of this study, â€œThe hypothesis is that there are evolutionary pressures on males to take steps to minimize risk of raising off-spring that are not their own.â€?
The article also throws light on another interesting point, â€œMen did not show a preference when it comes to one-night stands.â€?
I know the research is focused on certain points and canâ€™t view many things in wider perspective. Since this new study was conducted by psychology researchers at the University of Michigan, they studied it in the purview of psychology.
I wonder, if this is entirely true? Only the women with important jobs are prone to cheating? What about women, who are housewives and spend a larger part of their time unobserved by anyone? Doesnâ€™t availability of time and boredom lead to extra-marital affairs and cheating?
Anyway, I think this article has ignored a very important aspect. Right from the birth (midwives claim they can foretell the sex of child on the basis of his/her first cry!). The minutes a male child steps into this world, he should be expected to cry louder than females and dull their voices!!
Right from the childhood a boy is expected â€œ not to cry like a girlâ€?, â€œnot be a sissyâ€?, â€œbe stronger than his sisterâ€?, â€œbehave like a manâ€? etc. At a very tender age expectations from parents, friends and society start shooting sky high. They never expect from a girl to look after their parents or to earn for her family or be a pillar of strength for anybody. But a boy canâ€™t escape all this. He is often told to be in control because he has to look after his family. Boys are not even expected to marry a girl who is taller than him! So girl having a higher IQ is definitely out of question for a long term relationship!
I think a boy is conditioned from a very tender age to be better than a girl. This societal pressure plays a very important role when he looks for a long term relationship. He canâ€™t escape from expectations thrust upon him since he arrived in this world. For an affair or one-night stand it alright to have an intelligent girl. But life-long commitment with a higher IQ partner, its another story.